Archive | February, 2011

Common Sexological Concerns

28 Feb

Common Sexological Concerns

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This is the last day of the Febulove carnival celebrating love, eros and romance. It has been my pleasure to initiate and inspire individuals and couples towards positive sexuality through this project. Please keep in touch!

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This is a list of common sexological concerns:

• Body image and sex-negative conditioning
• Sexual desire
• Courtship concerns
• Obstacles to Intimacy
• Sexual development, maturation and aging
• Sexual communication and negotiation
• Medical considerations affecting sexuality
• Atypical sexual behaviours
• Sexual trauma including assault and childhood exploitation
• Gender identity
• Sexual orientation
• Sexual education for parents
• Women’s concerns including orgasm, masturbation, partnered sex, painful intercourse, and lubrication
• Men’s concerns including erectile difficulties and timing of ejaculation

A trained clinical sexologist, like myself, will be able to address these concerns. For an appointment, please email info@eroscoaching.com.

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How do Sexologists work?

27 Feb

How do Sexologists work?

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The PLISSIT Model of Sex Therapy developed by Jack Annon and is the basic format for used by Clinical Sexologists.

PLISSIT is an acronym for a model of sex therapy. It stands for permission, limited information, specific suggestions, and intensive therapy. It represents a specific model designed for treatment in sex therapy by Jack Annon in 1974.

PLISSIT is basically a graduated system of therapeutic sieves, in which the easy cases are caught and eliminated first, while the more difficult cases sink to the bottom in steadily diminishing numbers. Thus, Annon’s pragmatic and practical model is a useful reminder for all therapists and their clients that not every sexual problem requires to go through the whole therapeutic arsenal.

There are four levels of the therapy designed for each successive level to provide increasingly deeper levels of treatment.

An example of the first phase of the treatment would be for the therapist to use the session reassuring the client/s that their behaviors, thoughts, feelings, fantasies are normal. This is further explained that this is normal as long as the behavior does not negatively impact the other person.

The second phase, limited information, is when the therapist provides specific information to the client/s regarding their concerns such as sexual response, anxiety, size of one’s penis, sexuality and aging, clitoral response, orgasmic responses, effects of medication might have on sexual performance, etc.

The third stage, specific suggestions, is comprised of homework assignments such as the use of techniques of stop/start techniques, masturbation, or others recommended by the therapist. These are designed for the couple to reach goals such as improved communication, reduce any anxiety, or learn new arousal behaviors.

The final phase, intensive therapy, is needed in when there are relationship problems which are at the root of the sexual problems. This is the phase required when the first three phases do not resolve the sexual problems. This intensive therapy ranges from psychosexual or insight-oriented during which the therapist interprets and reflects to the clients to help them gain awareness of their feelings which may be inhibiting their sexual response.

Tomorrow is the last day of the Febulove carnival celebrating love, eros and romance. Please keep in touch!

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CD: Feeling Fine Affirmations

26 Feb

CD: Feeling Fine Affirmations

Product Description:

Louise L. Hay brings you affirmations to help you feel more joy in your life. Use this CD anytime you’d like to lift your spirits!

Part 1: I Love Myself: Affirmations to exstablish a loving relationship with yourself and with everyone who enters your life.

Part 2: I Love My Body: Affirmations to stimulate a positive attitude toward your body and your health.

Music by Jai Josefs: “I Love Myself the Way I Am”

About the Author:

Louise L. Hay, the author of the international bestseller You Can Heal Your Life, is a metaphysical lecturer and teacher with more than 40 million books sold worldwide.

For more than 25 years, Louise has helped people throughout the world discover and implement the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing. Louise is the founder and chairman of Hay House, Inc., which disseminates books, CDs, DVDs, and other products that contribute to the healing of the planet.

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Online Video: Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions and The Fine Art of Sexual Positions

26 Feb

Online Video: Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions and The Fine Art of Sexual Positions

View online wo DVDs from Kenneth Ray Stubbs Ph.D. These videos are for erotic adventurers who wish to be inspired by visions of erotic art, music, and poetry without spoken instruction.

In the “Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions” romantic and erotic poetry, art, music, dancing, and beautiful nature photography offer visions of sexual passion as divine and sacred. An attractive young couple demonstrates a variety of sexual positions outdoors in a lovely field, without engaging in sexual intercourse. The erotic artwork shown from around the world is explicit and detailed.

“The Fine Art of Sexual Positions” presents hundreds of sexual and lovemaking positions through photography, video, and visionary art from five very different artists.

These videos include some nudity, and are explicit in some places.

You will see examples of art and dance from:
• Kama Sutra—4th century India
• Ishimpo—10th century Japan and China
• Ananga Ranga—13th century India
• The Perfumed Garden—16th century North Africa
• An East Indian Dance for the Beloved
• The African Full Moon Dance
• Contemporary Visionary Artists

Creator: Kenneth Ray Stubbs

Included: 114 minutes of video

You can watch online from the comfort of your home.

Check it out here.

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Love your breasts

26 Feb

Love your breasts

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Women’s breasts are not just for nursing or for men to wank at. Women can and should enjoy and appreciate their breasts.

Women’s Health shares six ways:

• Cuddle up
• Tease them
• Relish new sensations
• Focus above the areola
• Get wet
• Maximize your size

For the full story, click here.

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Online Video: Amazing World of Orgasm

26 Feb

Online Video: Amazing World of Orgasm

“Let there be pleasure on earth, and let it begin with me.” Annie Sprinkle Ph.D.

Dr. Annie Sprinkle is committed is to bringing more pleasure into the world. She wants all of us to live even more ecstatic, orgasmic lives. In this course, Annie has gathered twenty-six sex experts to expand our understanding of orgasm.

You will meet a chiropractor who explains the physiology of orgasm, a woman who has breath orgasms, a scientist who discovered four new categories of orgasm, a grieving widow whose husband had an orgasm as he died, a midwife who experienced orgasm while giving birth, a recovering Catholic who had spiritual orgasms, and a man who prefers a good laugh-gasm. You will learn about orgasms while in outer space, transsexual orgasms, faked orgasms, the big draw, the politics of orgasm and, of course, how to have bigger, better orgasms.

The experts are Stuart Block, Juliet Carr, Barbara Carrellas, Cléo Dubois, Cleopatra, Betty Dodson, Dominique, Fakir, Eleanor Hamilton, Scarlot Harlot, Jwala, Karen, Joseph Kramer, Kutira, Laraji, Robert Lawrence, Frank Moore, Ray Noonan, Michael Perry, Kembra Pfahler, Carol Queen, Andrew Ramer, Carolee Schneemann, Ray Stubbs, Norma Wilcox, Wonshé.

Annie has included an orgasm study guide and an explicit demonstration of “mega-gasm”. Her goal is that you expand your knowledge of orgasm so that you can experience dozens, if not hundreds, of different types of orgasms.

In this class you can learn:
• How to become more orgasmic
• About the physiology of orgasms
• About the history of orgasms
• About different types of orgasms
• The joy of mega-gasms

Class Format:

• 57 minutes of video which you can view online

• Dr. Sprinkle’s Orgasm Study Guide – 32 pages of text (pdf)

This course is taken from the DVD “Annie Sprinkle’s Amazing World of Orgasm”.

Click here for more.

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G-Spot Chronicles: Orgasmic Women and the Explosive G-spot

25 Feb

G-Spot Chronicles: Orgasmic Women and the Explosive G-spot

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In response to the British Scientists of King’s College, London who, in late 2009 declared the G-Spot a myth, Glamour Television International expands its inquisition into the infinite dimensions of the female orgasm and the elusive G-Spot. A consortium of Nine female experts assembles to examine the facts, fiction and implications of the G-Spot. Only Ejaculating Women can deliver G-Spot Chronicles in spectacular detail, elegance and style.

Produced and directed by Godfrey Silas

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Six things about the female orgasm

24 Feb

Six things about the female orgasm

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According to NewScientist, science has revealed six things about the female orgasm.

• The G spot is real
• The brain switches off
• Many women can’t have orgasms
• Genes affect orgasm frequency
• Technology can help
• Some mystery remains

View it here.

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Sexual Anxiety

24 Feb

Sexual Anxiety

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This article first appeared on The Online Citizen.

Anxiety is a normal part of life. We all have experienced anxiety at some point of our lives. In fact, anxiety is one mechanism that evolved to keep us alert and help us cope in stressful events or situations. More specifically, performance anxiety refers to self-consciousness about the quality of one’s performance that actually, in turn, decreases the quality of one’s performance.

Sexual anxiety may present itself as a form of performance anxiety. Typically, there is so much preoccupation with the anxiety itself that the person becomes less fully involved in the sexual interaction, bringing about the very failure that is feared.

Male sexual performance anxiety is usually described as when a man has trouble getting an erection. This issue is hardly ever discussed openly by men, for fear of losing their projected ‘macho’ image.

Fears of sexual performance are not limited to men. For women, it might include worries about physical responsiveness—such as the speed with which vaginal lubrication or orgasm is attained, or the length of time that lubrication or orgasm is maintained. On a broader level, anxiety can also be reflected in how much passion, tenderness, intimacy and sensitivity a person feels toward his or her partner.

Sexual anxiety may also be part of a social anxiety complex where people may feel that they are inferior to others in some important way, or where they are overly concerned about other people’s reactions. Whether sexual anxiety is part of performance or social anxiety, it can result in lowered self-esteem, avoidance of sexual encounters, relationship breakdowns and further sexual difficulties.

In this cycle, anticipation of the next sexual encounter arouses the same anxiety coupled with the memory of the previous failure and often perpetuates the problems. It might lead to an avoidance of sexual activity altogether, or at least a minimisation of the amount of sexual interaction that occurs. In turn, the partner might misinterpret the behaviour as a form of rejection. The underlying reason for avoidance is usually to save face so the person feels more in control and less guilty about being inadequate.

These are a few suggestions where anxieties revolving around sexual performance are concerned:

- The first remedy has to be communicating with your partner about what is happening. Attaining the understanding and support of your partner should reduce some of your symptoms. If you find other sexual activities that you can do in bed, this should take some of the stress off sex.

- Focus on enjoying the whole process of sexual intercourse and don’t torment yourself by thinking solely of the end result or goal – the Big ‘O’. The emphasis is on the sensations – staying in your body, remaining in the moment.

- Let go of the erroneous belief that men are always ready, willing, and able to perform sexually. Besides sexual anxiety, there might be other factors at play such as tiredness, illness, resentment, not being attracted to your partner, or just not being in the mood.

- Sexual coaching can take you from where you are at, to where you want to be. Home assignments are given where your goals are broken into smaller, achievable exercises which will help you learn how to overcome your sexual anxiety.

- Hypnosis can reduce sexual performance anxiety to promote a more relaxed and confident sense of self, optimize self-esteem, happiness and boost self confidence.

- Prescription drugs can be used to treat erectile difficulties. The medication works by enhancing nerve signals that causes nerve signals to be sent from brain to the male genital organ, which results in it becoming erect. Viagra, Cialis, Levitra or the newly launched Zydena (in Malaysia) are some of the drugs to choose from.

Lastly, sex is supposed to be un-self conscious and pleasurable. Until you let go of what you ‘ought’ to be doing, or of what is ‘right’ or ‘best’ for you or your partner, you are not going be able to enjoy the experience. We need to learn to let go of control, receive, release and feel.

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Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

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Beautiful Agony

23 Feb

Beautiful Agony

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Beautiful Agony is dedicated to the beauty of human orgasm. This may be the most erotic thing you have ever seen, yet the only nudity it contains is from the neck up. That’s where people are truly naked.

The videos were made in private by the contributor (and sometimes their partner). We don’t know what they’re doing, or how they are doing it, we just know it’s real and it’s sexy as hell. Make your ears blush by putting on your headphones and turning the sound to eleven.

Yes, there are free samples. Look for the ones with the red borders and the text underneath that says ‘free sample’.

New agony comes five times per week (at least).

They all have sound. Free preview here.

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